`Eros' is best defined as `sensual love'. It is from `Eros' that the word `erotica' is derived, and the Greeks depicted that in its highest form, `Eros' is represented by the love which a man has for a woman. We see this in the Roman pantheon, where Cupid, the equivalent of `Eros', the Greek god of love, is poised ready to strike arrows into our hearts. The Greeks believed that `Eros' is so powerful, that it acts like a tsunami - it washes away all before it and carries all that is with it, for it is an irresistible force which impels us to procreate and have babies, so that this `Original Spark' might be incarnated in our children; for the Greeks believed that the entire universe reflected `Eros' in some capacity. But `Eros' is capricious, just as the gods were depicted as being capricious; for though immortal - they shared in the baser emotions of pride, envy, and vengeance which all of humanity experiences, so that men were subject to the whim of the gods. This was known as fate!
The celebrated Greek philosopher Plato objected to the idea that the gods are little more than glorified men, for in his mind, God is good, and is incapable of displaying base emotions such as envy and malice; for if this were possible it would amount to a corruption of His very essence of `goodness' and - God could no longer be God! So he sought to elevate `Eros' far above the sensualism of the material world which he believed it had fallen into and believed that this unsullied form of love in its purest form is the `parousia' of the gods, and is that ecstatic elevation of consciousness which is achieved through the various forms of union with them. Plato believed that this `Heavenly Eros' is the very essence of the gods themselves, and that it is replicated in the love which a man has for a woman. But Plato was wrong, or at least misled, for `Eros' remains `Eros'; whether `Heavenly' or not, for `Eros' is based upon a sense of need, is dependent upon circumstance and is therefore conditional, for `Eros' thrives when that magnetic spark of attraction exists between a man and a woman in a romantic situation; but when this wanes - so also does the relationship! Although `Eros' can at times be exhilarating, it is notoriously fickle and is completely dependent upon our sense of need.
While `Storge' is not used in the Bible, it is a word which defines instinctive affection - for instance the affection which we have for our children, and animals have for their offspring. In extreme cases, it will sometimes lead us to die for the object of our affection, just as `Eros will lead us to do the same thing.
Everyone has heard of Philadelphia, the city of brotherly love. It is derived from the word `phileos', and is the love of the fellowship of the friends which we enjoy being with. It is based upon the principle of water finding its own level - we are attracted to people we admire, like, and share commonalities with. But just as we tend to seek out those who are like us, so also do we tend to avoid and sometimes shun those who are unlike us - such as murderers, rapists and nasty government officials who would rather rape and pillage our pockets, than be friends with us! But just as `Eros' is based upon a sense of need, so also is `phileos'. Some friends we keep for years; sometimes our entire lives - while others we grow apart from when we no longer have anything in common with them, and they become strangers to us. `Phileos' holds this in common with `Eros'. While there is nothing wrong with these two forms of love, for this is the way we are `built'; both forms of love are in fact based upon `what's in it for me', or disguised selfishness.
`Xenia' is best regarded as the form of courtesy and respect which one shows to strangers, for the Greeks believed that there was a sacred obligation to show hospitality to travellers, which they in turn must reciprocate. It was customary for the host to give the guest a parting gift, which demonstrated that the host honoured and respected the guest, or traveller. While this ritual might seem strange to the western mind, the Greeks believed that the gods walked amongst them, and at any time they might be unknowingly entertaining a god who would reward you for good or ill in accordance with how you treated the god. Therefore it was in your best interest to be courteous to strangers, for you never knew when the gods might test you! Zeus was sometimes referred to as `Zeus Xenios', or the `god of travelers'.
`Agape' was an obscure, little used word which took upon a new meaning when it became used in light of the context of the New Testament. While all of these other forms of love are conditional and are based upon a sense of need, `agape' is completely unconditional and is based upon the love which God has for us, instead of the love which we have for God, as our `natural' human love is fickle and changeable; whereas His love for us never changes! When the cross first demonstrated this kind of love to the world, it literally turned the world `upside down' (Acts 17: 6). When you were told of it, it either made a disciple of you, or an enemy of you. There was no sitting on the fence; for it relentlessly strips away our thin veneer of civility, and exposes all other forms of love as disguised selfishness, and is so stupendous in its breadth that it even dares to die the `second death' (Revelation 2: 11). While the Greeks believed that only the good are worth saving, the Bible declares that none are good, and:
. . . . God commends his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us' (Romans 5: 8.)
This website is dedicated to revealing the unconditional `agape' love of God in it's pristine beauty, and examining the reasons why the Churches at large generally no longer comprehend it.